Healing The Father by Chris Rainey

Healing After Abortion: Support for Men

Abortion can be an emotionally complex experience—not just for women, but for men as well. While the physical aspects of pregnancy occur in a woman’s body, the emotional impact of an abortion can touch both partners. Men often report feeling a wide range of emotions after an abortion has occurred, including guilt, sadness, anger, confusion, or even helplessness—especially if they felt excluded from the decision or unsure how to support their partner during such a difficult time.

In many cases, men are told, directly or indirectly, that their emotions about the abortion doesn't matter or that they shouldn’t feel anything at all. As a result, some may suppress their feelings, believing they have to “stay strong” or move on quickly. Others may carry silent grief for years, not realizing that what they’re experiencing is a form of loss.

Healing after abortion is possible—and it’s okay for men to acknowledge their pain. Whether the decision was mutual, one-sided, or unexpected, your feelings are valid. Healing begins when we are honest with ourselves and give ourselves permission to process our experiences, ask questions, and seek support.

Common symptoms men may experience after an abortion include:

• Anger or irritability
• Depression or numbness
• Difficulty in relationships
• Substance use as a coping mechanism
• Avoidance of conversations about the past
• Guilt, shame, or spiritual disconnection

It’s never too late to begin the healing process. Whether the abortion happened weeks, months, or years ago, your story matters. You don’t have to carry this silently.

If you’re a man struggling with the emotional aftermath of an abortion experience, reach out today. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means finding peace, clarity, and a renewed sense of purpose. H3 is here to walk alongside you with compassion, understanding, and hope.